Do you ever feel like you're in a never-ending race searching for a feeling you can't seem to find? You try new things, set goals, or buy things thinking that doing so will make you feel better, but it doesn't. You are always looking for something, but you don't know where to find it or what it looks like. You are just hoping it will make you feel "better."
The search is exhausting. But so is the empty feeling.
So, you keep searching, running the race, because you don't want to feel the way you do anymore. I searched for 42 years. I was never able to find the one "thing" that took that empty feeling away.
When you grow up missing that connection with a parent, it leaves a hole inside of you. An emptiness resulting in a mindset that there is something you lack. I had that feeling because I grew up without a father. I thought the feeling came because he didn't want me or love me. I had a hard time loving and accepting myself.
Then I realized, nothing outside of me could fix what I felt inside of me. I couldn't buy my way out of the feeling. The solution wasn't out in the world. It was work I had to do in and on "myself." I had to learn to love and accept myself. That is what finally filled the hole and took away the emptiness. I finally accepted myself for who I was and learned to love myself, flaws and all. The work is deep, but it is worth doing. The work is "for you." And you are worth it.
I am a coach who helps people who grew up with an unavailable parent. Specifically, I help them heal old wounds and learn how to manage triggers from the past so they can move forward. I am healed and found peace with my past by understanding it, accepting it, and not allowing it to define me. I talk and teach what I know from the scar, not the wound.
You can schedule a free consultation with me right here on Life Coach List or visit my profile to learn more and connect with me on social media.